Pray More Over Your Marriage Than You Talk About It

In my previous posts about marriage is dwelt  on words: "What to say and not to say to or about our husbands and marriages." Now I amstill on words but this time are not on what to say or not say but we are focusing on what we should do more than say.

We are to  "Determine to pray more words over our marriages than speak about our marriages." How many of us are doing that? Some of us might not be guilty of speaking bad but could either be continuously going on about our marriages or husbands to our friends, colleagues, families and even social media which could create envy and jealousy from some. Or some could always be discussing their marriage "issues" with their husbands.

Choose to be wise by praying more than speaking more. For every word you speak about your marriage, pray maybe about ten or more words over it. Daily when I speak to God in prayer I thank Him for the things my husband is and does, I even  thank Him for what I trust God my husband is becoming instead of continuously going back to Him with the same request. I already speak those things that he is not yet as though he is and believe me he becomes as I pray. Whatever we struggle in I speak as it is successful in prayer. For example, if intimacy or lovemaking dwindles,  I charge up our marriage by speaking what I want to happen.

I am sharing about what I do to show you it works. Words and prayer have been the determining factor in our marriage. My husband and I chose to speak, pray and agree on the things our marriage will never become  before we even got married. Till today in the years we've been married we have not experienced them because we continue to pray more over our marriage, speak into our marriage than speak about it to others.

1 Thessalonians 5:17 _"Pray continuously."_

CAN LOVE SURVIVE IF THE ONE WHO LOVES LACKS WISDOM?

Let me first use world quotes:

As the famous saying *"Wisdom is key"* marrying someone who has no wisdom at all or you having not attained wisdom will be a slow suicide. When they say marriage is not for kids they do not refer to age but wisdom and understanding.
Anyone can fall in love. Our 4 year old son falls in love with his different toys daily. He has declared his love for his friends.
How many times have you fallen in love and every time you encountered something you didn't like you fell out of love? I fell in love many times (I even used to write love poems. LOL! ) and always thought it would blossom into marriage. Until I was older and wiser.

Coming to God’s Word

How do we attain wisdom? From God (James 1:5 "
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.)
One needs to really have a tight relationship with God in order to get  wisdom and all things he needs to prosper in. (Jeremiah 33:3 " Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not." and Joshua 1:8). This also where " _Unless the LORD builds the house, the builders labor in vain._" Ps 127:1 comes in.

Think about the Garden of Eden. Adam was all alone with God before God created him a mate. He was tight buddies with God and it is from Him where he learnt to take care of the world.
Then when God created Eve He put Adam to sleep so He could  have a one on one with this beautiful creation called woman.

So ladies and gentleman embrace this temporary loneliness and serve God to your outmost possibility.
Ask Him for the wisdom and understanding. Which is what makes Ephesians 5:22-33 a second nature instead of an effort or expectation once one is married.

If love is the motivation to marriage without wisdom how will one understand or know how to love as 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 states?
Yes we are physical beings and are first attracted to what we see but that's not what makes us agree to life together forever in holy matrimony. Blessed are we that we have learnt to keep our clothes on and hands to ourselves until we are declared by a pastor as husband and wife. Therefore we are safe from eros love or lust-motivated marriages. Eiiiii.... this is the most *stupidifying*(own word) thing in the world. The greatest men of God have fallen by it as you can see wisdom had left the buildings at that time.