FROM MODEST TO SEXY...Revolution Of The Godly Woman

As I was busy doing my household work, this title was impressed in my heart: "FROM MODEST TO SEXY...Revolution Of The Godly Woman". Words filled my heart as images flooded my mind. Images of modest women I know. To tell the truth one or two women I knew after knowing Christ Jesus as my Lord and saviour came to mind so this thought struck my mind: "When a woman changes from a formerly modest looking woman to a "sexy" looking woman it reflects who or what is occupying her." By occupying her I am referring to occupying her mind, her time, her spirit or her body.

The world or the media is filled with images of how women should look in order to look "appealing." or "attractive" The media in essence dictates to women how they should look, behave, walk and carry themselves in order to attract men, make other women envious and in some cases get the job they want. Before I go to far with this I need to bring scripture into this in order to direct where I am going with this. The word of God says in Romans 12:2 "Do not conform to the patterns of this world but be transformed by the renewal of your mind." What this means is that we should not copy or be like the world (the world being all that does not agree with God's word) but be changed by a constant renewal of our minds. "How do I renew my mind so I can be transformed?", you might ask. By constantly reading God's word and praying regurlaly or always. This scripture is one of God's words that made me remember that as a woman, my behaviour or look reflects who or what occupies me.

If I constantly study and meditate on the word of God, spend most of my time doing the work of ministry by helping others, evangelizing, spending time with my family and have daily moments of intimate conversations with God my appearance will reflect that. How? You wonder. I will be more modest and more covered up because I will be very much conscious on the kind of attention I am drawing to myself. Modest does not mean frumpy, extra long dresses, dull colours and looking like one is mourning. The Dictionary.com meaning for modest in this context is "having or showing regard for the decencies of behavior, speech, dress," In other words I would dress in a way that will make those around me or see me from a distance to not feel uncomfortable around me. Another meaning for modest I found on Dictionary.com is "free from vanity, egotism, boastfulness" If we study our Bibles regurlaly we would know that God does not want us to draw attention to ourselves but wants us to whatever we do all unto His glory.

 Someone might argue and say: "But modesty has nothing to do wth what you are wearing but has more to do with your heart." Yes that is true but so a woman who believes she is God-fearing can speak the word of God even in her sleep but still wear a mini dress with a cleavage squeezed out for fresh air? Can she dress like that on any normal Sunday to church or any day to work and still be effective in witnessing for Christ? Ok, this was not meant to be part of this post but somehow it creeped in knowing how people think and can be defensive. The point of this post is to highlight on who or what affects the way a woman dresses.

Think about this, many thousands of years ago women used to dress the same with more cover and less skin showing. Then came the introduction of media and women began to be the advertising objects of lust to sell cars, tools and other things that have nothing to do with women. That is when the term "Sex sells came." In those olden days before "Sex selling" women's concern was to take care of their families, households and do the works of God. Yes adultery and fornication dates back to the Bible days but media has influenced it highly.

Ok, coming back to the title "FROM MODEST TO SEXY...Revolution Of The Godly Woman", what a woman feeds her eyes, ears, mind and soul affects how she sees herself and in turn presents herself to the world. I write with my own personal experience and observation of those around me. Before I knew how to choose what and what not to watch, read, listen to and spend my time around I had a particular way of dressing. I wore dressed more shorter and more tighter until I changed my medium I received form. Well this is not an overnight transformation but as the word says "Be transformed by the renewal of your mind." the more you spend time in the word and prayer the more you get to see yourself through the eyes of God and not of the world.

The world or media is constantly screaming to women: "Look sexy, low cut tops, see through tops, skin tight dresses, little black/red/white something" through many ways. A woman of God can unconscioulsy be transformed and conformed to the world by what she watches, reads, listens to and who she spends time with. The are many shows out there that whisper without saying too much how our sisters should look. Some shows look innocent packaged as entertainment, talent shows and/or thought-provoking or mind-shifting talk shows. But when you look at the female hosts or reality stars style of clothes they are very appealing to the eyes of the viewer especially the male viewer even though the shows are targeted at women. This will then in turn affect the women's shopping, dressing, make up and how they carry thesmselves. The word of God in Proverbs 23:17 says: "What is in a man's heart so is he." So what a woman fills her mind with she starts to become. The more of these shows a woman watches the more they even draw her to the offscreen lives of those she watches. Most of the time the media will be drawing attention to the clothes, style and behaviour of those TV stars and there it is again, her shopping decision is affected. The same happens through what she listens to and reads as the shows she watches will draw her to tabloids. As well as commercial music and music stars she follows and listen to.

Remember the word of God says: "Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God" (Romans 10:27) so in everything, what you expose your mind to through hearing and seeing becomes what you believe. This why people are very quick to defend the way that they dress and quote scriptures like "God looks at the heart and not at the outer appearance." You do know that the word of God also says: "Your body is the temple as the Holy Spirit." (1 Corinthians 6: 19 ) so imagine the church building being the physical house where we worship God looked like either a night club or brothel would you still believe it is the house of the Lord? Would you believe that people can find deliverence from a place looking like that? If we refer to the old testament when Solomon had to build the temple of the Lord (Read 1 Samuel 6), God was specific and strict on how it should be built, decorated and on what articles should be in it. Even before the temple was built God specified on how The Ark of The Covenant (Exodus 25:10-22) should be designed and what articles should be in it. Just to give you a quick Bible History, remember the Ark of the Covenant signified the presence of the Lord. When Christ died on the cross the veil in the Holy of Holies got torn (Matthew 27:51) which then meant we could all now access God's presence. And when He ascended He sent the Holy Spirit (John 14:15-21) to us and  now He, the Holy Spirit lives in us as we are His temple. So now, if whatever you wear does not affect the presence of the Holy Spirit why was God so specific on the look of His temple? Do you not then think what you fill your mind, soul and spirit with through your hearing and sight would affect the presence and work of the Holy Spirit in you (John 14:26)?

To bring this article that was never meant to be so long to a conclusion, I mentioned the company a woman keeps also affects how she dresses and how she carries herself. The man in the woman's life is reflected in how she dresses and behaves. If that man is a man governed by the flesh or filled by what media feeds him, he will somehow affect her. Sometimes he does not even have to tell her how to dress but what she sees as what appeals to him, will affect her clothes, behaviour and how she carries herself. In some cases the man in a woman's life does directly tell her what looks good on her. A man can either influence a woman to cover up more or reveal more of her flesh and shape of her body. In most instances where there is more skin preferred it communicates something else about the couple's relationship or where it is heading. The same goes with the type of friends a woman has. If they feed on media junk, it reflects on their conversations, dress and lifestyle and this eventually draws the woman of God to conform. So no matter how much she makes it a point to read the word and pray, the company she keeps eventually corrupts her. Sisters, it is scriptural, see 1 Corinthians 15:33.

"FROM MODEST TO SEXY...Revolution Of The Godly Woman" this is not intended to judge or condemn or even give me a certificate of "Holy than thou" but to be an eye-opener and reminder to my sisters whom God loves. When you buy clothes or when you put them on, ask yourself: "Am I representing God or am I drawing attenion to my body?" I know over 90% of the fashion for women is body-sculpturing dresses but this should not give us the excuse to wear the skin-tight dress that makes the onlooker wonder why they cannot see any visible panty lines or the lycra tights or leggings as they are now called to church. Always remember we are houses and how we decorate these houses will attract whatever believes this house is built for. Just to point out another thing, this is also not written to condone judging and speaking against women who dress inapropriately to church because all of us are in different stages of self-discovery in Christ.

In closing: "³⁰ Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
³¹ Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate." Proverbs 31:30-31

 

OUR WEDDING WAS PLANNED BY GOD

 

23rd of March 2013 will forever be the most memorable day of my life together with my husband Paul Nthoba. This day was set and planned by the best wedding planner of all, our Almighty God. Like my dad said the days prior and even on the day: "This marriage happened long before we were even born." He said what was now happening was a public decleration to those close to us.

It has been a while since I have written anything in my blogs due to wedding preparations, post-wedding settlements and running my Fashion and Image business. The hecticness kept me thinking: "How do married, working/entrepreneurs and ministry-dedicated mothers who are also  studying concurrently do all their daily responsibilities?"

Anyway, going back to the topic: My husband and I had been anticipating this day since the day he decided to make him his wife. Well the day he decided to be closer than a friend is the day he decided I am the wife he's been looking for. As scripture says "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD." (Proverbs 18:22) So basically we did not date or court as we both knew we were meant to be together already. It is not easy to explain it because these things happen differently for everyone.

This blessed day was birthed prior our engagement during our 40 days Prayer and Fasting Partnership. I was not aware at the time when I told my close friend (male) that "the next man who intends to know me or date must already see me as a wife and not someone to hang out with until he finds the one he wants or realizes I am not the one," that I was actually prophesying what was to come. Just a couple of days later I got a call from Paul and we started chatting about God for hours until I was moved to ask him to become my virtual prayer partner. He jumped at the opportunity as he said he too has been searching for a prayer partner. We both did not know on that day that we were going to be Lifetime Prayer Partners.

Fast-forward to marriage and wedding prepartions:

Everything happened smoothly and silently as we kept it sacred between ourselves and God. We put Him first (Matthews 6:33) and requested Him to take full control of our relationship, our parents, lobola negotiations, the wedding day  and our lifetime union (Psalm 127:1). Most people could not understand why we did everything so silently. Everyone caught it later or saw our Facebook Status updates which we only did way after all was done. Why did we do that? Going back to Genesis; "When God saw that it is not good for a man to be alone" (Gen 2:18) and decided to 'create him a suitable helper and presented her to him", there was no one else except the man, the woman and God. And also because God has given us the power to create through our spoken words or tongues (Poverbs 18:25) we decided as led by our Prayers prior our engagement that we will not allow people to speak into our newborn's life(relationship). Yes, good people speak blessings but spiritually-retarded people have too much to say. #TakeNote

We planned everything with God and for God. What we were not looking for was a wedding that will "wowww!!" people but a wedding that will give glory to God. We just wanted what He approved. If He wanted extravagant we would have gone extravagant. In other words there is nothing wrong with extravagant weddings. As long as  God is the centre of everything in that marriage and wedding celebration because after all Jehovah Jirer provides for all the needs of His children (Proverbs 4:19)

We got it as simple as God planned it:

We sat down with God daily going about the budget, the theme, venue choice, menu choice, guest list and even shopping for our garments to designing them as well. He even gave us the idea of the theme just by telling me which fabric and colour to buy. I know it sounds exagerrated. The fabric I bought was the last piece in that colour and when I bought I just liked the colour. I did not buy it for my bridesmaids. I just bought it cos I loved the color. It gave me this beachy breezy feeling. We had a different color scheme planned but I loved how everything flowed in the same color scheme at the end. Okay I will write about the bridesmaids and groomsmen's outfits in my www.foreverfaithcouture.blogspot.com. 

My dress? Prayer and spoken word I am telling you. The price and design as discussed with our Wedding Creator.  My hubby and I already had bought shoes for the wedding but we ended up wearing different ones.

Our Bridal Party

Aka brothers and sisters aka groomsmen and bridesmaids were also God-led and God-chosen. We prayed and asked God whom to request and wowww they were divinely perfect. My bridesmaids are more like my sisters as I received them Spiritually because our genetic connection is in prayer. To honor them I will mention them here: Masego Mokgoro, Lerato Mahlanya, Karabo Ngoetjane and Florina Moerane. The groomsmen are geneologically related to my hubby and mostly Spiritually related to him: His brother Katleho Nthoba; his cousin Mokhantsho Nthoba; his nephew Katlego Nkwane and his brother in Christ Tebogo Sengoai. All these beatiful souls came to their call as requested which was to support us prayerfully as they all understood it was a spiritual mandate rather than a "Let us be beautiful and handsome" or "Let us show the people we rock finesse." They all looked beautiful and handsome on the day. It was a more than skin-deep beauty. I thank God for them because they went beyond showing up their beauty. They helped us with the wedding prepartions. I also thank them because it is only through a willing heart that God can work.

THE DECOR PLANNING

I believe hubby should consider partnering with me in Wedding and Events Designing and Planning
as we are such a great team with God as our CEO. Shopping and designing as we went around was never stressful as we both agreed on everything. "Hmmmmm anticipating decorating our home together." After shopping, I gave him the vision, drew it down together and he ran with it (Habbakkuk 2:2) decorating the venue with the groomsmen and another fellow brother in Christ, Mr. #Steve our MC who stayed the night out helping the gentlemen. I personally dislike DRAPPINGS. My young lady friend, Lerato Kwanaite went in my place as I was still finishing the garments on the day to go add a woman touch in the decor. Our wediing theme was COCKTAIL CARIBBEAN EKASI.

THE STYLING DRESS UP

Shoo this was a Holy Spirit-present preparation as by 10 am in the morning all the garments were still being completed by me, my nails were not yet done, I had not rested and my girls had to become multi-talented from the evening before to the last minute as they had to do my hair while I was sewing on the machine, overlock this and that, sew in buttons in the men's shirts and iron the men's garmentsas well as do their own make up and nails. Thanks to Florina who did our hair helped by my sweet voice singer friend Ruth Mofokeng. Florina also did all our nails for free with mine done just minutes before rushing to the venue for the matrimonial service. I only got to see myself on the mirror as we were leaving. The guys had sent my brother-in-law to come pick up their attires an hour before event. LOL! I had no stress as I rejoiced with my ladies singing praises and praying throughout.

DRIVING TO THE VENUE

Hear this: We never thought about transport to the venue and around but just an hour before leaving my aunt arrived with her daughter in her car and son-in-law in aother one. We also had my other sister's and another aunt's cars to ferry us. Well we did have two of my girls cars and our Smarty but we were blessed to be driven in four cars. God is the best planner!!!! (Jeremiah 29:11)

 

ARRIVAL AT VENUE

Two hours later than the invitation stipulation and an hour later as communicated with our Marrying Pastor we arrived. It was a Spiritual experience that felt like I dream as I saw everyone waiting for us and welcoming us, cameramen and all. My girls looked gorgeous like they just bathed in milk and perfume. With my beautiful nieces as my flowergirls walking in front of me and my dad holding my hand leading me, I was blown away by how it looked. At the same time seeing my husband all stylish and different as I love him, with family, relatives in the Lord and childhood friends looking so joyful with their cameras snapping at us. I could not help but let the tears in my heart soak me inside. It was as we prayed and spoke together with my hubby and God our Planner (Isaiah 48:17).

I remembered how whenever hubby was asked for any prayer requests, his was for our wedding to minister to all those who will see it and those who were not there. As we prayed and spoke we received

THE GUESTS/INVITES

Many were not invited not by choice but by prayer. Not that those who were not invited were not chosen by God but rather those who were present were there as willed to receive from God, to witness and to support us prayerfully. We wrote down names, cut down the list and got back to even more people than we planned. Our parents kept asking how many people were coming. They too got a request not to invite everyone in their lives. Some who were invited and had RSVP'd did not come due to personal reasons and God's will. Some were invited as and when we bumped into them even days before the event and because they understand the purpose of weddings they came with love. Till today we are still explaining and apologizing but we know they too will understand when they get to where we were.

THE CEREMONY

Woww...this one requires a blog on its own as my Dad sang:"You just call on my name and you know wherever I am. I'll come running...." reminding us Paul and I are each others' lifetime friends. My mother-in-law rocked the reception with some rap showing us where Paul inheritted the skills and talking about me words that humbled me. She even spoke my new name which came prophetically through our marrying pastor and as she says from my God-given character. Believe me  I prayed for a prophetic name and got that. Glory to God. Paul's brother showed his dancing skills as he came doing a Sotho Dance and Singing. My Beloved friend, Lerato cried joyfully as she spoke about our journey together as sisters. Paul's friend also sang a gospel song. This was a Family's Talent Wedding with a cake to go with it.

We were blessed by the sweet melodic singing by Ruth Mofokeng who sang Chrisette Michelle's Golden as I walked in with my dad. She also sang my childhood favourite gospel song "Ha le mpotsa Tshepo ya ka" and a song I sang with her "Count on me". Thanks to Bhekinkosi Hlatswayo's giving of his God-given musical talent as he played the keyboard for our wedding. We were also blessed with poetry by another friend and brother, Thibe Pooe who ministered through his poetry in Setswana and English.

Our MC and Programme Director, Mr. Steve Dikole was also a blessing in many ways thanks be to God. He helped us keep time and did a great job oh yes and being there even the night before. Our friend Mothopi Matli gave us the Word for the day and a lifetime. God bless his soul.

Our photographers Lefedi Radebe and his partner Tshepo did a beautiful job and making the shoot enjoyable as my hubby and I love pictures. Ooh the end product is "Oh so heavenly". They captured everything from venue preparation to the the last speech. Wowww!!! Thanking Mr. Jeffrey Zulu and wifey (Paul's friends), Linda Mabusela (our sister in the Lord) and Sechai (our brother in the Lord) for ferrying us to the photo session venue and back in their cars.

THE CAKE!!!

Asked only 3 days before the wedding (yep we never planned this, God did as we had planned the wedding cake for later celebration) my sister in Christ, Molebogeng Nghondzweni baked us a Devine Wedding Cake. And with the little time she had she gave us a prophetic cake topper!!! A microphone on top!!! I am not for the usual common "what-everybody-does" I did not want toppers in a suit and wedding gown. I asked her for something that describes us and ...with a singing father, rapping mother, rapping bride and groom, singing brother and all ...it was PERRRRRRFECT. Mmmmmm and it tastes devine as well. It was a beautiful gift from the Nghondzwenis. God bless them.

Everything happened as we prayed and spoke together and always to and with God. Everyone who helped was not just God-sent but God-chosen. Even the people who helped our families in preparing the meals. This point being a  specific thank you to my young sister and friend Lesego Tau who sacrificed her Friday night before an early morning Saturday school to help my mom, sister and cousin.

The cutlery and crokery we used were given to us by our blessed sister and her business partner, Ausi Mpumi and Bessie Monchusi (not related to me. I say given because she whole-heartedly hired them out at almost nothing. Glory to God.

Oh no how can I not mention our younger brothers and sisters in the Lord from Children's Church and their friends who were excellent hosts at the wedding. I can never thank them enough for their big hearts: Kwanele, Kgaugelo, Pinky, Nhlamulo, Nhlanhla Ming, Nhlanhla, Mothopi's niece and Lerato Kwanaite.  May God increase your prosperity and godly influence. I love you all.

Thanking our Children's Church teachers for the Surprise Bridal Shower, love, prayers and presence; our sisters and brothers in Christ from ...Unlimitted (youth ministry), JOY (singles ministry), the Pre- Marital Counselling Department, our church Grace Bible Church, our childhood friends and most importantly our parents and siblings who went along with a seemingly craziest wedding theme ever(Imagine a wedding without 'dikuku le gemmer' -that's cookies and ginger ale). All this is thanks to the Lord and a testimony that if you put first His kingdom and His righteousness, all these shall be added unto you.

Closing this post that sounds more like a thank you message (which it is), Paul and I pray and hope every person young and old realizes the blessing that comes with waiting, marriage and putting God first in everything. We are already anticipating our 50th Wedding Anniversary Celebration with God! Good people choose to do what God wants and shun all that He calls evil and see how He will faithfully deliver on His promises. (See Deuteronomy 28:1-2, Psal 37:4, Psalm 37, Jeremiah 29:11)

                      To God be the Glory!

A CAN'T GET CAN'T THOLAKALA WIFE

Proverbs 31:10-12 "
 
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.

11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.

12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life."


Being a wife of a noble character is being a "can't get, can't tholakala" wife. Women's characters have been changed by the world to be too independent, too masculine, too sexy and too worldly. The word tells us to not be conformed to the patterns of this world (Romans 12:2) yet most women have conformed.

As a woman I must preserve my God-given woman's values and character. I must watch how I dress. Am I noble or too sexy? Does my personality, character and behaviour command respect or ooze SEX APPEAL?

When out of my husband's sight is he confident that I am his wife and only his or am I such a flirt that he worries thinking about other men's hands and eyes all over me? Even if you are not yet married or have been found by the right one you must always view yourself as someone's future wife. Men are visual visionaries believe me. How they see you now is how they picture you as a wife and mother. So introspect and review your behaviour, character and dress now. Do you really think being a hot, sexy mama who drinks like a man will really build a healthy family and children with good values? Seriously renew your mind, reform your thinking and change your wardrobe.

A wife of noble character not only respects her husband or body. She respects his and her parents and family as well as strangers. She does not treat people like dirt. Even a filthy-looking homeless person deserves respect because he too is a child of God. Even a dog does not deserve ill-treatment so a woman of noble character has a good heart for God's creation.


Be the kind of woman that can never be compared to those the world calls bootyliscious, sexy, gold digger and all the words you cannot find in the Bible. Be the kind of woman that will drive people to search the scriptures in order to find your comparison. Not the kind they just turn on the telly and find exposing and moving what ought to be covered and kept for your husband alone.

Having been once upon a time the sexy, most desired and wanted woman who was any man's festival of fantasies should not be your end or condemnation. Let it be of the past. Put on the new you, cover yourself up in the Lord and with proper clothes, wear dignity with love, kindness and respect. Believe me even those who have seen you barely dressed will forget that, embrace and respect the noble woman you are now.

Read and CONFESS Proverbs 31: 10- 31 in the first person daily and believe it. Make it your daily  wash, tone and moisturizing scripture:

 "I am a wife of noble character who has been found by my husband
  I am far worth more than rubies.
  My husband has full confidence in me
   and lacks nothing of value.
  I bring him good, not harm
 all the days of my life...."

Continue with the scripture in that way and see it work far better than any beauty or diet product. That is the word of God. It works beyond the physical.

Woman, You are a wife of noble1 character a can't get, can't tholakala2 wife.

Noble ¹ 

Definition: Possessing eminence, elevation, dignity, etc.; above whatever is low, mean, degrading, or dishonorable; magnanimous; as, a noble nature or action; a noble heart.

Can't tholakala

Definition: Cannot be found, hard to get

MY FIRST...BELOVED

You are my first...
The first warrior to pray for me
The first heart beat I felt
The first voice I heard
The first beautiful face I saw
The first soft skin I felt when I felt the first embrace
The first hand that fed me and first one to wash me
The same first hand that smacked me out of love
The first eyes that shed tears for me and still does
The first one to rejoice over me and my triumphs
The first to comfort and support me when needed
The first to nurse me and always first to rush
And sit by my bed in hospital
The first friend I had and still are...

Happy birthday my beloved angel. My beautiful blessed kind and God-loving mother.

Today we celebrate you for on this day a beautiful soul was born. Thank you for all that you instilled in me: Love for others, kindness, respect, reverance for God and self-respect. Thank you for always being there when I need a friend to go anywhere with. You've been my date at a function. You bought my first lingerie (not just underwear) an a Valentine's Day gift when I did not have. You are the sweetest, most patient, most understanding and tolerant person I know.

Your faith in God blows my mind. You are a living testimony on two legs. You survived the worst life could give. I am blessed to be your daughter. Even if we would differ in thought you will never force me to go with your choices or opinions. You taught me to independently make good decisions by figuring out right from wrong.

I thank God for you. I thank God for choosing you to be my mother. You are the best and may this day on which you were born be a happy blessed bithday <3 <3 <3

I know I am not talking for me alone but for Makgomotso, Kgosana and our departed Kabelo.

I love you Mama.
Ke nna morwadiwagago
Kebone(BogoloBaModimo) Faith Monchusi..

ForeverFaithful

...KNOTTED IN HIM- GROWING TO KNOW...LOVE

....KNOTTED IN HIM

This note is a day late but my special day is everyday by God's grace. Yesterday was my birthday and instead of celebrating myself (if that is what birthdays are for) I would like to use this place and space in cyberspace to honor and thank a beautiful soul I feel blessed to be knotted in God with.

I do not just write because I can but because it is a gift God gave me. I write to glorify and I hope and pray that when he or she who reads what I write is ministered unto. So this below is for you too to read and hopefully it speaks to you as well...

GROWING TO KNOW...LOVE

I grew up knowing LOVE is a beautiful thing between two people

But got to believe LOVE hurts

I grew up thinking that LOVE is two hearts beating as one

But had to experience LOVE breaks your heart.

Then I remembered words embroidered in gold: "MODIMO O LERATO"

GOD IS LOVE and God led me to read 1 Corinthians 13

I learned that as I grew close to God I became more and more like Him

I became like God which was being like LOVE

I begot LOVE from God and became LOVE but not God

Once God was in me LOVE was in me and I in Him

Then I met him who was full of LOVE and full of GOD

I got to know him who is 1 Corinthians 13 LOVE personified...

Paul is patient, Paul is kind. Paul does not envy, Paul does not boast, Paul is not proud. Paul does not dishonor others, Paul is not self-seeking, Paul is not easily angered, Paul keeps no record of wrongs. Paul does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Paul always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Paul will never fail.

I will always look unto God and learn from Him 

How to LOVE, honor and respect this man and only if

I LOVE, honor and respect God who is LOVE will I know how to do this

If we stay rooted and knotted in God shall we remain knotted as one cord

You are not a battle to be fought

Not a challenge to be overcome

Neither are you an argument to be overcome

Nor an irritation to be ignored

Not even a pain to be numbed 
You are a man to be LOVEd, appreciated and respected.

I am humbled by your humble nature and calmed by your calm spirit. Your LOVE for God makes me dance with you for God in worship. Your spirit of praise makes every second with you worth spending. Your heart for God and others makes mine expand with joy. Your respect for me blows my mind. Your will to put our "self' behind and below God makes me look forward to life with you forever. Your honor for your parents, my parents and all elder people makes me trust you as a parent. Having you in my life makes me believe that God is perfect matchmaker because we would not have met if we did not LOVE God. You are the expression of my thoughts.

Ke ya ho rata Paul Nthoba. Thank you for loving God which makes it easy for you to love me. May God continue to use you twice as much He blesses you until you finish this race. Thank you for embracing PURITY for God's work to be complete in and through us. You are LOVE personified.