WOMAN, KEEP YOUR CLOTHES ON

This note was inspired by a conversation I had with a newly acquainted social network friend one evening. We were chatting about relationships and why they break up as she told me she recently had a fall out with who she thought was “The one”.

As *Lu and I were chatting God told me to tell her that He wants her to have a blame-free marriage. That means a marriage not built on a shaky foundation of sex before marriage. So this now brought me to writing this for all the other women looking, hoping, praying and waiting for “The One.  

The world has blinded women and society as a whole that “SEX SELLS” and this has caused women to believe “The more skin I show the more attractive I look.”  Well yeah that skin might have a magnetic force to it and attract men but hey a magnet does not choose what it attracts if thrown into a box of bolts, screws, pins, metal, etc. Therefore how a woman presents herself will attract the men who see her as an object of their lustful mind. Matthew 5:28 says: “but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”  And just to remind women the word says also: “Be careful, however, that the exercise of your freedom does not become a stumbling block to the weak” 1 Corinthians 8:9.

The world has perverted God’s beautiful gift to man in marriage. “The gift of sex” and made it something worthless and meant for everyone to just misuse, manipulate and destroy each other with. It’s time women put a stop to this and refuse being objects of mens’ lustful desires.

Woman, keep your clothes on. Not just from being photographed half naked but from a man who is not your husband. A man who is not married to you need not see you naked in any form as this might cause him to fall as scripture does warn man about looking at a woman lustfully. However you as a woman will also be judged for causing others to sin whether be it through you literally being naked, posing nude, dressing in a way that arouses lust in men or having sex with him out of marriage. . Bathsheba was bathing in David’s full view which attracted sin after sin: Adultery >>>Murder.  Matthew 5:27-28 “²⁷ “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ ²⁸ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

“1Thes:4:3: For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication”

Woman, keep your clothes on. The above scripture is not a request but a command from God. Here is the truth, it does not matter how long your maintained your purity, abstinence and I am “waiting for marriage” conversations with a man; it does not matter how you fought the temptation of allowing him to touch you inappropriately (outside marriage) if you let your guards down and give in you have lost so much of you than you can think.

“What do I lose? You might ask? First and for most you have compromised you commitment to God by choosing to please a man or is it satisfy your flesh? Secondly you have committed sin as you know by now that sex out of marriage (fornication) is a sin. Thirdly you have lost your chances to be cleaved to a man who could marry you as you have now opened the door to illegal spirits that might be operating in the life of the one you fornicated with. Fourthly, you have lost your trustworthiness with the man you slept with as he realized that you failed to be truthful to the Most High by going against your vow to Him and keeping His command. And, you have brought a curse upon yourself as it is stated in Deuteronomy 28: 15.

Let me tell you something you might have not heard, experienced or noticed. I actually heard my pastor confirm it as well that men are born hunters (not his exact words) and therefore as hunters they will chase the prey who is you, they do not mind waiting in the background to the point the prey brings itself to its slaughter into the hunters trap. So if you as a woman falls for the man’s “We are going to get married” or whatever he says that makes you loosen your Armour of God (Ephesians 6:10) know that you have kissed that ring goodbye.

I know of a couple that dated for over a year. The lady had kept herself and survived peer pressure in her late teen. She met “Mr. Not really Right” in a church. They went overboard and eventually because he promised he will marry her she gave herself to him before the altar and then he came back and broke up with her to marry someone else.

Pastor Mosa Sono once said in his sermon about “Soul Ties”: “The most valuable thing in a woman’s life is her body and the most valuable thing in a man’s life is his freedom.” He then asked: “Ladies why would you give a man the most valuable thing in your life when he will not give up the most valuable thing in his life?”  Which brings to mind most guys’ comment that why should they marry when they are already receiving benefits of a married life.

Did you know the scripture in 1 Corinthians 6: 16: “..he who joins himself to a harlot is one with her in body. The two shall become one flesh.” does not necessarily apply to specifically a harlot. In this context a harlot is anyone you are not married to. Therefore whoever you sleep with you become one with them. So Woman, keep your clothes on if you want to get married in the near future. Juanita Bynum in her DVD “No More Sheets” tells her own story how when she got divorced and later on asked God: “God why am I not married?” She says “God answered and said, ‘Because you were never single.’” She further explains that God told her that it was impossible for Him to join her to her husband as she is joined to all these men she slept with in her life. 

You are probably reading this counting in your mind how many men are still in your life. Yes they are still in your life even after ten years since you last saw him/them. Past partners lingering in your life do not require him to have impregnated you or infected you. Instead they are cleaved (clung) to you spiritually.

Ok, there’s a solution to this. Do not attempt any throwing in of the towel. I say this because some women have given in to fornication because they feel since they lost it they might as well continue. This is one of Satan’s tricks of keeping you out of heaven to go and keep him company in hell after eternity. This is the solution: Start remembering ALL the guys you slept with and then renounce them one by one in Jesus name. Pray that God renews you and restores you.

I know some of you would say that there are people who got married after fornication. Yes it’s true, it happens but is it build on a stable foundation, are these marriages happily ever after? How about you become different? Be as God wants you to be. Be blameless.

Mary, was a virgin when God chose her to be the mother of Jesus. Her own fiancé, Joseph had never touched her. Imagine he had to wait for the Messiah to be born before they could consummate their marriage. Then we have women failing to keep their clothes on and giving themselves to men they are not married to. Much younger women, actually girls are having children due to the fact that older women are failing to model being virtuous women

Women, let us help our society by tying our belt of truth to keep our whole armour in place.

WOMAN, KEEP YOUR CLOTHES ON.

A LETTER TO A SHOPAHOLIC

 Dear Clothes&Everything New Addict

I know you love shopping because of your love for beautiful new things. I believe nothing pleases you than a brand new garment, the smell of new leather, the texture of a new coat fabric. One thing that excites you the most more than anyting is the figure on the price tag. If anything costs lesser than R999 it is not for you. The only time you buy for less than R999 on an item is in the underwear department but because you have to hit the R999 figure the more of those lacy, beautiful and elasticated garments you buy the merrier and pleased you are.

Maybe I am wrong you do not overspend, so you just love the red, yellow hangers and sidewalk sales in the upmarket malls. Nothing makes you feel wise and victorious like scooping items that cost R399 at a cut price of R99. You just go to the malls and make a mental picture of items to come back for end of the month. If it is too small you believe it will motivate you to loose weight and if it is too big that lady who alters can do wonders to it so you can fit in it. You rarely get invited to weddings if you do its only twice in a year and you do not attend evening functions but you believe a classy dress or suit and maybe two evening dresses need to find place in your full cupboard. And oh, for every garment you buy yo always buy a shoe and a bag to match.

Oh, woww!! Did you see those new Aranda blankets? "The ones at home are not enough", you think to yourself. Your daughter is still and infant but you feel these shoes they have on sale will never be sold again when she is six years old so you believe you should buy them for her. I love you new pots do they cook better than the ones you have not used?

I know shopaholics are not just women.

Sir, by the way how many perfumes do you have? "This perfume is no longer available as they stopped production of it and I have not opened mine" , says the good-smelling-but-nauseating well dessed gentleman. You do not drink alcohol but you love your wine collection. Nothing younger than 2000 on your rack. Sir, did you see the latest man bags are no longer so unmanly? They remind me of the bags men carried in the 70's. Mhhhh I know you will buy the sixth one and yet you are still getting the courage to carry a bag and still feel like a man. But really, do you need another black suit, black belt and shoes? Well, every man needs a tie for every day of the month. Sir I love your watch. Oh really? You have a collection? Mhhh...what is the time?

Ok maybe you are young and your parents buy stuff for you. Boy, I can imagine your anticipation of sitting in front of your latest, what is it called? an X-box? Wowwwww!!! It's all I can say so where's your Playstation 1 up to..... Ummm I'm clueless on these things. I love your IPhone and what is it you are listening to? Lovely shoes you got on. Oops sorry they are called what? Jordans? Mmmm I see.

Girl your hair is beautiful but you had different hair last week right? Are they cool with coloured weave at your school? Nice one. You also changed your look. Who is your fashion inspiration now? You mean you no longer wear those Katy Perry cute dresses anymore? You are into jeggings, boots and leather? Nice. I can only picture your wardrobe. Now I understand why you take so long to get ready. Too many clothes to decide on.

So you buy anything that is cereal because your children are choosy? Woww!! Corn Flakes, Coco Pops, Rice Crispies, Muesli with what? Yummy I just got hungry from the variety. Can I come for a visit, watch a movie, eat buttered pop corn, crispies, peanuts and chocolate? Mhhhh... But don't food get spoiled since you are always out and getting take aways? Yo! What is grocery bill? Do you NEED all of those things? Every month?

Ok, now that you read this and got to reflect yet feeling defensive and wanting to say you being judged: I am not writing from my own mind as the word says lean not on your own understanding. I am just opening your third eye which is your eye of understanding.

This above is for all of us who can afford to buy a loaf of bread, a carton of milk, a bar of soap, a pair of socks and anything we need to get by. it is not just for the shopaholics but for all of us who have clothes we no longer wear because they are fashion-outdated or the color is so last season. This is for all of us who have more than one jersey, one coat, one pair of boots and blankets we added to the ones we already had saying they are for visitors.

Think about it, have those clothes, shoes, housewear, perfume and everything you bought and used once, twice or even not have used appreciated in value? When you decide to spend R300 on the two of you at a restuarant (believe me it is no sin to enjoy the fruits of your labour) and still having  your freezer full of meat and vegetables in their rack, did you take note of that young man who begged for a coin? Well I know we do not all or always carry hard cash or coins on us, but did you find out what is his name and where is he sleeping tonight? I know we can never finish or stop people from begging. But the word of God says "there should not be beggers among you." There will always be beggers. They've been there even when Jesus was still on earth. One thing Jesus never did was overlook beggers or leave preople hungry hence he stopped when called unto Him and He fed 5000 men with just Five loaves and a fish.



My friends, my family and my beloved, I am writing this to remind you and since the word is a double-edged sword I am reminded myself of the great commission. Jesus has called us to feed the hungry, clothe the poor, open the eyes of the blind and the ears of the deaf... are we doing that? Why are we waiting to get rich yet we have a choice of clothes in our cupboards? Why do we shrug our shoulders at the hungry man at the street corner when we have grocery in our cupboards. We either say "Sorry my bother I have no coins" or "Sorry next time". Have you ever seen the parking attendant eating or opening a lunchbox yet even if you never asked him to guard your car and you actually found the parking spot yourself, will it hurt us to buy the R20 meal at KFC, Nandos, Debonairs or anywhere else? Will it take us out of budget. God says he who gives to the poor lends to the Lord.

I am saying this as an eye opener and sharing on the joy God has been pouring into my heart to think of these "invisible" ones. Invisible because society overlooks them. If society had a big broom, society would sweep these God's loved ones off street corners and out of malls and wherever you find them . Because society frowns at them saying "Bayahlupha labantu". We look good, pray hard, pray with and for our brothers and sisters in the Lord, giving each other hugs saying: "It is well. God is faithful."

I thank God for He lives in us those who take cogniscence of those He sends to us to help. I thank God for the friends He brought into my life for every moment I spent with them I have seen God working in the lives of the poor in spirit and everything.

If God says, give the coat you are wearing to that little boy, will you hold on to it because of what you paid for it? Brothers and sisters, these things do not make us but hinder us from receiving the fullness of joy, the overdue complete blessings from God.  If you miss that double Mac lunch for that hungry man today do you think you will faint?

Ok this is where I end my note. I am supposed to be working on a an assignment due on Wednesday morning and completing clients garments but I had to do this is I was moved to speak to all of you who are blessed.

On closing, the word of God says if you are faithful with little you will be made ruler over much. Ask yourself: "Can God trust me that when I am wealthy I will give to the poor? Have I been faithful to give out of my need just like the woman who offered her last penny and the widow who baked with her last flour and oil and the boy who gave his lunch to feed 5000 people? Would I really be like the one who washed Jesus with her perfume and dried his feet with her hair (can my Brazillian hair take it?)? So, do you really hope to be wealthy, out of debt and have a good return in your investments?

My shopaholic friend, let's go shop for the poor, let's empty our cupboards, let's give the unopened perfume to our uncle. Whatever you do not use or want someone out there really needs it. Whatever you choose not to eat because of taste someone's stomach is cramping to filled with it.

PLEASE CONSIDER THE POOR

Scriptures concerning help to the poor


Prov. 19:17 When you help the poor you are lending to the Lord--and he pays wonderful interest on your loan!
1 John 3:17 But if someone who is supposed to be a Christian has money enough to live well, and sees a brother in need, and won't help him--how can God's love be within him ? 1 John 3:18 Little children, let us stop just saying we love people; let us really love them, and show it by our actions. 1 John 3:19 Then we will know for sure, by our actions, that we are on God's side, and our consciences will be clear, even when we stand before the Lord.
James 1:27 The Christian who is pure and without fault, from God the Father's point of view, is the one who takes care of orphans and widows, and who remains true to the Lord--not soiled and dirtied by his contacts with the world.


Psa. 82:3 Give fair judgment to the poor man, the afflicted, the fatherless, the destitute. Psa 82:4 Rescue the poor and helpless from the grasp of evil men.
Prov. 21:13 He who shuts his ears to the cries of the poor will be ignored in his own time of need.
Prov. 28:27 If you give to the poor, your needs will be supplied! But a curse upon those who close their eyes to poverty.
Prov. 22:9 Happy is the generous man, the one who feeds the poor.