This note was inspired
by a conversation I had with a newly acquainted social network friend one
evening. We were chatting about relationships and why they break up as she told
me she recently had a fall out with who she thought was “The one”.
As *Lu and I were chatting God told me to tell her that He
wants her to have a blame-free marriage. That means a marriage not built on a
shaky foundation of sex before marriage. So this now brought me to writing this
for all the other women looking, hoping, praying and waiting for “The One.
The world has blinded women and society as a whole that “SEX
SELLS” and this has caused women to believe
“The more skin I show the more attractive I look.” Well yeah that skin might have a magnetic
force to it and attract men but hey a magnet does not choose what it attracts
if thrown into a box of bolts, screws, pins, metal, etc. Therefore how a woman
presents herself will attract the men who see her as an object of their lustful
mind. Matthew 5:28 says: “but I say to you that
everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his
heart.” And just to
remind women the word says also: “Be careful, however, that the exercise of
your freedom does not become a stumbling block to the weak” 1 Corinthians
8:9.
The world has perverted God’s beautiful gift to man in
marriage. “The gift of sex” and made it something worthless and meant for
everyone to just misuse, manipulate and destroy each other with. It’s time
women put a stop to this and refuse being objects of mens’ lustful desires.
Woman, keep your clothes on. Not just from being photographed
half naked but from a man who is not your husband. A man who is not married to you
need not see you naked in any form as this might cause him to fall as scripture
does warn man about looking at a woman lustfully. However you as a woman will
also be judged for causing others to sin whether be it through you literally
being naked, posing nude, dressing in a way that arouses lust in men or having
sex with him out of marriage. . Bathsheba was bathing in David’s
full view which attracted sin after sin: Adultery >>>Murder. Matthew 5:27-28 “27 “You have heard
that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I tell
you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery
with her in his heart.”
“1Thes:4:3: For
this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from
fornication”
Woman, keep your clothes on. The above scripture is not a request
but a command from God. Here is the
truth, it does not matter how long your maintained your purity, abstinence and
I am “waiting for marriage” conversations with a man; it does not matter how
you fought the temptation of allowing him to touch you inappropriately (outside
marriage) if you let your guards down and give in you have lost so much of you
than you can think.
“What do I lose? You
might ask? First and for most you have compromised you commitment to God by
choosing to please a man or is it satisfy your flesh? Secondly you have
committed sin as you know by now that sex out of marriage (fornication) is a
sin. Thirdly you have lost your chances to be cleaved to a man who could marry
you as you have now opened the door to illegal spirits that might be operating
in the life of the one you fornicated with. Fourthly, you have lost your
trustworthiness with the man you slept with as he realized that you failed to
be truthful to the Most High by going against your vow to Him and keeping His
command. And, you have brought a curse upon yourself as it is stated in
Deuteronomy 28: 15.
Let me
tell you something you might have not heard, experienced or noticed. I actually
heard my pastor confirm it as well that men are born hunters (not his exact
words) and therefore as hunters they will chase the prey who is you, they do
not mind waiting in the background to the point the prey brings itself to its
slaughter into the hunters trap. So if you as a woman falls for the man’s “We
are going to get married” or whatever he says that makes you loosen your Armour
of God (Ephesians 6:10) know that you have kissed that ring goodbye.
I know of
a couple that dated for over a year. The lady had kept herself and survived
peer pressure in her late teen. She met “Mr. Not really Right” in a church.
They went overboard and eventually because he promised he will marry her she
gave herself to him before the altar and then he came back and broke up with
her to marry someone else.
Pastor
Mosa Sono once said in his sermon about “Soul Ties”: “The most valuable thing in a woman’s life is her body and the most valuable thing in a man’s life is his freedom.” He then asked: “Ladies why would you give a man the most
valuable thing in your life when he will not give up the most valuable thing in
his life?” Which brings to mind most
guys’ comment that why should they marry when they are already receiving
benefits of a married life.
Did you
know the scripture in 1 Corinthians 6: 16: “..he who joins himself to a harlot is one
with her in body. The two shall become one flesh.” does not necessarily
apply to specifically a harlot. In this context a harlot is anyone you are not
married to. Therefore whoever you sleep with you become one with them. So
Woman, keep your clothes on if you want to get married in the near future.
Juanita Bynum in her DVD “No More Sheets” tells her own story how when she got
divorced and later on asked God: “God why am I not married?” She says “God
answered and said, ‘Because you were never single.’” She further explains that
God told her that it was impossible for Him to join her to her husband as she
is joined to all these men she slept with in her life.
You are
probably reading this counting in your mind how many men are still in your
life. Yes they are still in your life even after ten years since you last saw
him/them. Past partners lingering in your life do not require him to have
impregnated you or infected you. Instead they are cleaved (clung) to you
spiritually.
Ok,
there’s a solution to this. Do not attempt any throwing in of the towel. I say
this because some women have given in to fornication because they feel since
they lost it they might as well continue. This is one of Satan’s tricks of
keeping you out of heaven to go and keep him company in hell after eternity.
This is the solution: Start remembering ALL the guys you slept with and then
renounce them one by one in Jesus name. Pray that God renews you and restores
you.
I know
some of you would say that there are people who got married after fornication. Yes
it’s true, it happens but is it build on a stable foundation, are these
marriages happily ever after? How about you become different? Be as God wants
you to be. Be blameless.
Mary, was
a virgin when God chose her to be the mother of Jesus. Her own fiancé, Joseph
had never touched her. Imagine he had to wait for the Messiah to be born before
they could consummate their marriage. Then we have women failing to keep their
clothes on and giving themselves to men they are not married to. Much younger
women, actually girls are having children due to the fact that older women are
failing to model being virtuous women
Women, let us help our society by tying our belt of truth to
keep our whole armour in place.
WOMAN, KEEP YOUR CLOTHES ON.
