GOD WILL ANSWER YOU

My dear friends we all get disappointed in life when what we hoped, what we believed does not turn out as you expected. You could have been in a relationship but unexpectedly it breaks apart. This note below is actually a response to a client of mine who is now my Spiritual sister who was to get married last year but God had a different plan. She gave me permission to share this incase someone has experienced something similar. It does not have to be a relationship. It could job. Read on and find an answer or two to your question.

I am sorry about the outcome of the”could have happened” marriage. Do you know God will never ever let you stay without closure and explanation of why it turned out the way it did? (Ok I am just assuming it was not death). People always say “It was not meant to be” when things don’t go as we expect. Only God knows and you must pray and ask Him. God is not inhumane. He became man through Jesus Christ to dwell among us, so He understands feelings and emotions. So just like if you would ask your earthly father why he not allows you certain things, you just as well have the right to ask your heavenly Father. But that does not make Him man because God is faithful; He is not man to lie, nor a son of man to change His mind.

I know He loves you so much that He wants the best for you. Naturally we think we are ready for marriage but if God wants the best for you, just like your earthly papa, He will not hand you over to a man for marriage before you are completely processed and ready to be an Ephesians 5:22 wife: “ Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.”
We might feel like we now understand that instruction from Big Daddy but only He knows us for He is the porter and we are the clay. The clay pot can never know that is ready to be used or not.

Even if when people break our hearts, they themselves can be oblivious to why they do what they do. One pastor in 2003 said people hurt us through a blind spot. We might label them selfish but sometimes people are just prone to being vessels of the thief and liar of this world. But one truth is:” All things work together for good for those that love the Lord.”

TD Jakes says in his ‘Woman Thou Art Loosed’ we as single women should not ask for Saul (the Israelites saw other nations having kings and demanded to have one too.). He says we must serve God in our singlehood, whole-heartedly as though He is our husband by spending time with Him like we would with our husbands. That way He will be certain that He can give one of his princes chosen by Him and not you to marry you to marry you.

I say if it is His prince, chosen by Him, in the right time, he will surely treat you like his queen. Remember in Genesis 2:18 after God realized that it was not good for a man to be alone? He decided to make him a suitable helper. He put him to sleep and out of his rib God formed the woman and when God presented her to him he recognized her and said “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;” (Genesis 2: 23). My sister, God has put your Adam to sleep and He is in the process of moulding you, perfecting you, into his suitable helper. This is how I manage to stay single and 100% sold out to God.

I live daily according to
§                               Matthews 6:33:
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

§                               Matthews 6:33:
Delight yourself in the LORD,    and he will give you the desires of your heart.

§                               John 15: 1-8

The Vine and the Branches
 1 “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. 2 He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes[a] so that it will be even more fruitful. 3 You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. 4 Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
   5 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. 6 If you do not remain in me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. 7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. 8 This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.

To add to the mail for this note:

If you can live according to these above scriptures, surrendering yourself to the Lord and being fully committed to living for Him He will give you more than you ask for. By delighting yourself in Him, spending time with Him, you start to resemble Him and your desires will be molded by Him. When your desires are molded by Him, you will than pray in line with His will because He has given you desires that when you tell Him about them, He will give you because He already has the provision kept specially for you.

I advice, you beloved friends, quit depending on yourselves and leaning on your own understanding. Give God access to your life through prayer so that the plans He tells you about in Jeremiah 29:11 (plans not to harm you but to prosper you) can come to pass. You are not your own, you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body (1 Cor 6:19c-20).

Let God take over and rule over your life and allow Him to use you for the purpose He created yourself. At the right time, when you are ready to be introduced your Adam, Boaz or Jacob, He will put you in the right garden, garden or path where your lifetime mate will see you. Note, he will see you; meaning he will know that you are the woman he should marry.

Quit running in and out of relationships that take away a part of you ad damage you emotionally and spiritually. Hindering you from being the best person God has created you for. Stop breaking God’s heart by allowing yours to be broken. Give your life to God and He will never leave you nor forsake you. Even when you get married, keep God in your marriage. “A cord of three strands is not easily broken.” (Eccl 4:12b)

 God loves you and I love you too!!!