It has been a while since I have written anything in my blogs due to wedding preparations, post-wedding settlements and running my Fashion and Image business. The hecticness kept me thinking: "How do married, working/entrepreneurs and ministry-dedicated mothers who are also studying concurrently do all their daily responsibilities?"
Anyway, going back to the topic: My husband and I had been anticipating this day since the day he decided to make him his wife. Well the day he decided to be closer than a friend is the day he decided I am the wife he's been looking for. As scripture says "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD." (Proverbs 18:22) So basically we did not date or court as we both knew we were meant to be together already. It is not easy to explain it because these things happen differently for everyone.
This blessed day was birthed prior our engagement during our 40 days Prayer and Fasting Partnership. I was not aware at the time when I told my close friend (male) that "the next man who intends to know me or date must already see me as a wife and not someone to hang out with until he finds the one he wants or realizes I am not the one," that I was actually prophesying what was to come. Just a couple of days later I got a call from Paul and we started chatting about God for hours until I was moved to ask him to become my virtual prayer partner. He jumped at the opportunity as he said he too has been searching for a prayer partner. We both did not know on that day that we were going to be Lifetime Prayer Partners.
Fast-forward to marriage and wedding prepartions:Everything happened smoothly and silently as we kept it sacred between ourselves and God. We put Him first (Matthews 6:33) and requested Him to take full control of our relationship, our parents, lobola negotiations, the wedding day and our lifetime union (Psalm 127:1). Most people could not understand why we did everything so silently. Everyone caught it later or saw our Facebook Status updates which we only did way after all was done. Why did we do that? Going back to Genesis; "When God saw that it is not good for a man to be alone" (Gen 2:18) and decided to 'create him a suitable helper and presented her to him", there was no one else except the man, the woman and God. And also because God has given us the power to create through our spoken words or tongues (Poverbs 18:25) we decided as led by our Prayers prior our engagement that we will not allow people to speak into our newborn's life(relationship). Yes, good people speak blessings but spiritually-retarded people have too much to say. #TakeNote
We got it as simple as God planned it:
Our Bridal PartyAka brothers and sisters aka groomsmen and bridesmaids were also God-led and God-chosen. We prayed and asked God whom to request and wowww they were divinely perfect. My bridesmaids are more like my sisters as I received them Spiritually because our genetic connection is in prayer. To honor them I will mention them here: Masego Mokgoro, Lerato Mahlanya, Karabo Ngoetjane and Florina Moerane. The groomsmen are geneologically related to my hubby and mostly Spiritually related to him: His brother Katleho Nthoba; his cousin Mokhantsho Nthoba; his nephew Katlego Nkwane and his brother in Christ Tebogo Sengoai. All these beatiful souls came to their call as requested which was to support us prayerfully as they all understood it was a spiritual mandate rather than a "Let us be beautiful and handsome" or "Let us show the people we rock finesse." They all looked beautiful and handsome on the day. It was a more than skin-deep beauty. I thank God for them because they went beyond showing up their beauty. They helped us with the wedding prepartions. I also thank them because it is only through a willing heart that God can work.
THE DECOR PLANNINGI believe hubby should consider partnering with me in Wedding and Events Designing and Planning
as we are such a great team with God as our CEO. Shopping and designing as we went around was never stressful as we both agreed on everything. "Hmmmmm anticipating decorating our home together." After shopping, I gave him the vision, drew it down together and he ran with it (Habbakkuk 2:2) decorating the venue with the groomsmen and another fellow brother in Christ, Mr. #Steve our MC who stayed the night out helping the gentlemen. I personally dislike DRAPPINGS. My young lady friend, Lerato Kwanaite went in my place as I was still finishing the garments on the day to go add a woman touch in the decor. Our wediing theme was COCKTAIL CARIBBEAN EKASI.
THE STYLING DRESS UPShoo this was a Holy Spirit-present preparation as by 10 am in the morning all the garments were still being completed by me, my nails were not yet done, I had not rested and my girls had to become multi-talented from the evening before to the last minute as they had to do my hair while I was sewing on the machine, overlock this and that, sew in buttons in the men's shirts and iron the men's garmentsas well as do their own make up and nails. Thanks to Florina who did our hair helped by my sweet voice singer friend Ruth Mofokeng. Florina also did all our nails for free with mine done just minutes before rushing to the venue for the matrimonial service. I only got to see myself on the mirror as we were leaving. The guys had sent my brother-in-law to come pick up their attires an hour before event. LOL! I had no stress as I rejoiced with my ladies singing praises and praying throughout.
DRIVING TO THE VENUEHear this: We never thought about transport to the venue and around but just an hour before leaving my aunt arrived with her daughter in her car and son-in-law in aother one. We also had my other sister's and another aunt's cars to ferry us. Well we did have two of my girls cars and our Smarty but we were blessed to be driven in four cars. God is the best planner!!!! (Jeremiah 29:11)
ARRIVAL AT VENUETwo hours later than the invitation stipulation and an hour later as communicated with our Marrying Pastor we arrived. It was a Spiritual experience that felt like I dream as I saw everyone waiting for us and welcoming us, cameramen and all. My girls looked gorgeous like they just bathed in milk and perfume. With my beautiful nieces as my flowergirls walking in front of me and my dad holding my hand leading me, I was blown away by how it looked. At the same time seeing my husband all stylish and different as I love him, with family, relatives in the Lord and childhood friends looking so joyful with their cameras snapping at us. I could not help but let the tears in my heart soak me inside. It was as we prayed and spoke together with my hubby and God our Planner (Isaiah 48:17).
I remembered how whenever hubby was asked for any prayer requests, his was for our wedding to minister to all those who will see it and those who were not there. As we prayed and spoke we received
THE GUESTS/INVITESMany were not invited not by choice but by prayer. Not that those who were not invited were not chosen by God but rather those who were present were there as willed to receive from God, to witness and to support us prayerfully. We wrote down names, cut down the list and got back to even more people than we planned. Our parents kept asking how many people were coming. They too got a request not to invite everyone in their lives. Some who were invited and had RSVP'd did not come due to personal reasons and God's will. Some were invited as and when we bumped into them even days before the event and because they understand the purpose of weddings they came with love. Till today we are still explaining and apologizing but we know they too will understand when they get to where we were.
THE CEREMONYWoww...this one requires a blog on its own as my Dad sang:"You just call on my name and you know wherever I am. I'll come running...." reminding us Paul and I are each others' lifetime friends. My mother-in-law rocked the reception with some rap showing us where Paul inheritted the skills and talking about me words that humbled me. She even spoke my new name which came prophetically through our marrying pastor and as she says from my God-given character. Believe me I prayed for a prophetic name and got that. Glory to God. Paul's brother showed his dancing skills as he came doing a Sotho Dance and Singing. My Beloved friend, Lerato cried joyfully as she spoke about our journey together as sisters. Paul's friend also sang a gospel song. This was a Family's Talent Wedding with a cake to go with it.
We were blessed by the sweet melodic singing by Ruth Mofokeng who sang Chrisette Michelle's Golden as I walked in with my dad. She also sang my childhood favourite gospel song "Ha le mpotsa Tshepo ya ka" and a song I sang with her "Count on me". Thanks to Bhekinkosi Hlatswayo's giving of his God-given musical talent as he played the keyboard for our wedding.
Our MC and Programme Director, Mr. Steve Dikole was also a blessing in many ways thanks be to God. He helped us keep time and did a great job oh yes and being there even the night before. Our friend Mothopi Matli gave us the Word for the day and a lifetime. God bless his soul.
Our photographers Lefedi Radebe and his partner Tshepo did a beautiful job and making the shoot enjoyable as my hubby and I love pictures. Ooh the end product is "Oh so heavenly". They captured everything from venue preparation to the the last speech. Wowww!!! Thanking Mr. Jeffrey Zulu and wifey (Paul's friends), Linda Mabusela (our sister in the Lord) and Sechai (our brother in the Lord) for ferrying us to the photo session venue and back in their cars.
THE CAKE!!!Asked only 3 days before the wedding (yep we never planned this, God did as we had planned the wedding cake for later celebration) my sister in Christ, Molebogeng Nghondzweni baked us a Devine Wedding Cake. And with the little time she had she gave us a prophetic cake topper!!! A microphone on top!!! I am not for the usual common "what-everybody-does" I did not want toppers in a suit and wedding gown. I asked her for something that describes us and ...with a singing father, rapping mother, rapping bride and groom, singing brother and all ...it was PERRRRRRFECT. Mmmmmm and it tastes devine as well. It was a beautiful gift from the Nghondzwenis. God bless them.
Everything happened as we prayed and spoke together and always to and with God. Everyone who helped was not just God-sent but God-chosen. Even the people who helped our families in preparing the meals. This point being a specific thank you to my young sister and friend Lesego Tau who sacrificed her Friday night before an early morning Saturday school to help my mom, sister and cousin.
The cutlery and crokery we used were given to us by our blessed sister and her business partner, Ausi Mpumi and Bessie Monchusi (not related to me. I say given because she whole-heartedly hired them out at almost nothing. Glory to God.
Oh no how can I not mention our younger brothers and sisters in the Lord from Children's Church and their friends who were excellent hosts at the wedding. I can never thank them enough for their big hearts: Kwanele, Kgaugelo, Pinky, Nhlamulo, Nhlanhla Ming, Nhlanhla, Mothopi's niece and Lerato Kwanaite. May God increase your prosperity and godly influence. I love you all.
Thanking our Children's Church teachers for the Surprise Bridal Shower, love, prayers and presence; our sisters and brothers in Christ from ...Unlimitted (youth ministry), JOY (singles ministry), the Pre- Marital Counselling Department, our church Grace Bible Church, our childhood friends and most importantly our parents and siblings who went along with a seemingly craziest wedding theme ever(Imagine a wedding without 'dikuku le gemmer' -that's cookies and ginger ale). All this is thanks to the Lord and a testimony that if you put first His kingdom and His righteousness, all these shall be added unto you.
Closing this post that sounds more like a thank you message (which it is), Paul and I pray and hope every person young and old realizes the blessing that comes with waiting, marriage and putting God first in everything. We are already anticipating our 50th Wedding Anniversary Celebration with God! Good people choose to do what God wants and shun all that He calls evil and see how He will faithfully deliver on His promises. (See Deuteronomy 28:1-2, Psal 37:4, Psalm 37, Jeremiah 29:11)
To God be the Glory!